Whether you’ve been together for one year or twenty, travelling with your partner can be quite a challenge for a lot of couples.
Posted On February 22, 2017 Posted By Andy Buerckner
Reaching this decision together is integral for a successful time away. Eliminate any unwanted resentment by making sure you've considered each other's opinions and are happy with the destination/s chosen. For example, if one person hates the snow, it's probably not a great idea to go to the Swiss Alps for winter.
We can’t stress this enough. Money matters can really put a dampener on things if you're not prepared. If you’re happy to stay in cosy B&B's while your partner wants five star treatment, trouble awaits. Always agree upon travel standards, decide who will pay for what expenses and set a daily budget that you're both comfortable with.
TIP: It's always a good idea to plan according to the partner with a lower income.
So now that you’ve agreed on the destination and budget, what do you both want to get out of your travel? If all your partner wants to do is sip cocktails on the beach and you just want to go hiking, you may need to communicate your travel wants and needs.
One of you may be great at speaking other languages and the other at booking flights and planning. Figure out what you’re both good at and evenly distribute tasks. This way you’ll both feel valued and feel like you're sharing responsibility evenly.
Hanger is real and arguments that spring up from hanger are just as real. To combat this, stay in accommodation that either offers breakfast or is close to cafes/eateries. You don't want to trek to find your first meal of the day before your partner's had their morning coffee...it will be a nightmare. Also endeavour to carry snacks on you or at least have a snack during the day. This will ensure that at hour eight of sightseeing, you don't end up settling for the closest restaurant in the vicinity rather than the one you really wanted to try for dinner.
Delayed flights / trains / buses are always a possibility when you travel. Don’t take it out on each other and crumple into a heap when anything goes wrong. Travel can be stressful enough without playing the blame game. Learning to shrug things off can be pretty important.
Remember that you are still two individuals. You can have alone time and it’s completely normal. If want to visit a museum but your partner wants to do a stadium tour, split up for the morning and meet up later. Time apart can be refreshing when you're together every minute of the day.
Many arguments come about due to miscommunication. Keep open lines of communication and check in with your partner. Ensure that feeling they’re okay and vice versa. Always air your grievances rather than letting them get to a boiling point.
You don’t normally spend 24 hours with your partner in your day to day life so you’re going to see bad habits that you may not have noticed before. Brace yourself. For many, travelling with their partner is no walk in the park. There may be fights, there may be tears but at the end of the day, you're going to be experiencing an incredible destination together and creating many shared memories and that'll be worth it.